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DragonOfTheAerie

DragonOfTheAerie

Istari
Malik said:
If you need self-esteem, DOTA, you can always borrow some of mine. I've got plenty to go around.
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Self esteem? More like relief to my paranoia. I have difficulty reading people and knowing what kinds of things are appropriate to say or do in what circumstances. Being aware of that, I'm constantly having to curtail myself and keep track of how my behavior might affect other people and generally be aware. However, I've gotten too paranoid about it...so I end up thinking almost everything I say is "wrong." But how do you not be paranoid when you make wrong moves so easily?

Of course, part of this is my underlying belief that I'm not likable for some reason. (I've been indirectly punished for my quirks in almost every peer group I've been in.) So yes, maybe a little self esteem might help...
 
DragonOfTheAerie

DragonOfTheAerie

Istari
Futhark said:
Hey Dragon, I feel ya. Sounds like your self-esteem is wrapped up with the concept of being a people pleaser. I worked so hard to become independent and self-secure that besides my wife and kids I have no close friends at all. I am still insecure about posting though, because I think, who wants to hear from me? You should have seen my anxiety waiting for my first reply. Just know that even if you are high maintenance, there are always others that like lending a hand. I think a lot of them are on this forum so keep posting okay?
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I relate. Gah, I do relate. I just want to keep from messing up, ya know? I try to avoid saying the "wrong" things but what do you do when it all seems wrong?

Probably long years surrounded by neurotypical teenage girls with whom I cannot relate on any level have trained me that all interests and insights I have are taboo and unwanted. I generally assume I'm being annoying nowadays. Not a good assumption to make.

Not sure whether the solution is "say all the things I'm scared to say" or "don't say anything I'm not sure about."
 
Futhark

Futhark

Master
DragonOfTheAerie said:
Of course, part of this is my underlying belief that I'm not likable for some reason. (I've been indirectly punished for my quirks in almost every peer group I've been in.) So yes, maybe a little self esteem might help...
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Peer groups? What are those? I'm too nerdy for the blokes, not a fan of fishing, sports or loud engines. Too tough for the nerds (no, I don't care how good your graphics card is). Turns out I am likeable, witty, generous and sensitive. Have made some great friends over the years but can never seem to hold on to them. Self esteem issues? Hmmm...what day is it?
 
Futhark

Futhark

Master
Don't mean to denigrate nerds or people with good graphic cards. This is my first experience interacting with others online and I'm still playing with expressing myself in this format. I am funny in real life (funny looking at least). As to peers I feel that this site can and does provide peers and hopefully, eventually, friends.
 
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buyjupiter

Scribal Lord
I didnt realize I'd be using my French skills this much. I thought I was taking a useless class in school. But now I'm using it to flirt & be all chatty. & I've been using my French A LOT in the last six months. (Compared to the first 15 years post-grad)
 
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Thomas Laszlo

Mystagogue
CupofJoe said:
Rugby has been described as "a game for hooligans played by Gentlemen" where as football [aka soccer] is "a game for gentlemen played by Hooligans".
When it's played well it can be full of grace and power.
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That's cool! So sorry had to revamp my phone and tapatalk got deleted XD


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Thomas Laszlo

Mystagogue
Ok some thoughts: 1) School should make exceptions for writers during assemblies and other large events time wise lol so we have time to write XD

2) teens should be able to get some compensation if they have a certain amount of school activities so that they don't have to give up precious time for a freaking job that takes extensive hours


3) They need better ways to have accelerated study programs in highschool. Instead of graduating early what if you had some teachers do before and after school or independent study hours where students could move through material at their own pace and into new classes within the amount of a year so that maybe where a math class might've taken a year now it only takes a semester and then we can move on

4) Highschool students should create a lace where them and their friends can have study sessions and stay all night. So like, a club house sort of thing with beds and a functioning water and electricity system, where they can study and just stay up late studying and sleep well so that their parents aren't awoken by their studying


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